Let's face it — the planning of a wedding is primarily done by the bride. While it's certainly a couples affair, when all is said and done, the wedding is thrown for the woman who has been thinking about her dream wedding for so many years. The groom often needs to step aside, be a yes man, and make sure the bride is happy and has what she wants for the wedding.
But at the same time, the man has his own responsibilities in planning the wedding, and needs to step up when called upon by the bride, the venue or the families.
The biggest task for the groom is simply be supportive. Compromise may be a big factor in making decisions, but the bride generally gets what she wants on her big day. The traditional list of groom's duties include, but are not limited to, obtaining the marriage license, the rings, the officiant's fee, a wedding gift for the pride, gifts for the parents, and planning the honeymoon.
The groom should help plan out the guest line with the bride, track down missing RSVPs, dealing with family, and staying on top of the rehearsal dinner. While there are other tasks to be aware of and responsible for, the groom's main responsibility is to be supportive and to help with whatever is asked of him. If the bride needs help with the flowers, the food and the venue, the groom should make himself available.
Most importantly, as they say, he just needs to show up on time, and everything should work itself out.
If there is one thing you see at every wedding, it's a cake. When your wedding is hosted at Adelphia, you can be sure that your cake will be a gorgeous centerpiece in the middle of one of our beautiful banquet halls. And not only are Adelphia's wedding cakes some of the best you'll find anywhere, they're completely customizable.
When it's requested, Sara Fishman, Adelphia's pastry chef, will personally meet with any potential clients and couples to help design and discuss what their dream wedding cake would look like. If the client is already sure of what they want, they can send Adelphia a photo, which Sara will perfectly replicate.
Adelphia offers any wedding cake which the client wishes for their wedding. They will very rarely say no to a design, as it is their number-one goal to please the client and give them what they want for their special day. Additionally, they offer any size cake that is requested, from a small tiered cake to one with many layers and extra tiers to become the focal point of the room.
Along with some extravagant wedding cakes, including a geode one, Adelphia has made a number of special cakes over the last few years. Sara has created wedding cakes in the shape of the bride's dress. She's made stacked pillow-shaped wedding cakes before, and she's had fun making themed cakes for the groom, including one that was in the shape of a guitar, one that was a Yeti cooler with fish, and others which featured various sports team's helmets, footballs, baseballs and so much more. She's even replicated a groom's favorite car as the design for their cake, and another couple had a replica of their dog designed on the cake.
Being located just across the bridge from Philadelphia, Sara has designed a number of Philly-themed cakes, including one of Lincoln Financial Field, and another of a plate with a cheesesteak and fries. Adelphia has designed single-tiered cakes which were designed to appear as if they were completely covered with pizza, burgers, spaghetti, hot dogs and so much more.
Adelphia offers a number of different options and flavors, including simplistic buttercream decorated cakes to elaborate fondant covered cakes. Covering in fondant gives them more options for different textures and designs, as they appear much more polished and elegant. They offer an array of flavors, including vanilla, chocolate, red velvet and raspberry pound cake, as well as their marbled pound cake with cannoli cream filling, which has been very popular this
Every wedding has music. Music can also make or break a wedding celebration. How that music is presented can come in a number of ways, including a band, a DJ or an MC. Which one is right for your wedding is up to you, but many factors can come into play when making that decision.
A multi-piece band — especially with a horns section — is one of the most important aspects of a wedding to many couples. Finding the best band for your wedding can be a very extensive, exhausting and time-consuming process, and it also is the most expensive. If you can afford a band, this is generally the route many couples take, but it's not always necessary.
Including a large band at your wedding makes sense for a large, fancy, swanky event, as it fits the theme and glamour of an upscale wedding. At the same time, a smaller, local wedding band can be found at a reasonable cost. Live music has a number of pros, including experiencing the music in real time. It leaves open the possibility of spontaneity. Maybe someone requests a song, maybe the bride comes over, grabs the microphone and belts out some memorable notes that people catch on video to savor forever. On the other end, a band is limited to a specific number of songs that they can play, while a DJ, for instance, can pack a number of songs onto a playlist and have endless possibilities.
DJs are significantly cheaper than bands, and they also offer eclectic mixes of music for people of all ages. While the amount of music available to the wedding, as well as the lower cost to the bride and groom are the biggest pros to hiring a DJ for your wedding, other factors that can come into play include the fact that a DJ takes up significantly less space than a band, allowing for more real estate on the dance floor. Many DJs also MC, and an MC will make all necessary announcements throughout the night. They may be responsible for directing the flow of the wedding, which is an important factor.
No matter what you choose at the end of the day, make sure your band or DJ/MC make you feel comfortable, because music is one of the most important factors of your wedding. And if you can't afford a band, no one will hold that against you. People are there to see the bride and the groom, not a concert. But they are also there for a celebration, and celebrations are not complete without the party — a place where you will want the best vibes and music possible.
By Bill and Evelyn Balis of Adelphia
Life moves so fast for most of us that we rarely stop to enjoy the adventure. We get up and rush to work, rush the kids off to school, rush off to dinner, and then rush home to get to sleep so that we can get up to start all over again the next day. In between rushing, we’re tweeting, texting, updating Facebook, checking out Instagram, and if we’re lucky, having short conversations with our friends, family and neighbors. It’s exhausting just thinking about the way we live our lives. Well I’d like to inspire you to slow down to enjoy life’s journey and work some thoughtful reflection into your routine.
At Adelphia, we are fortunate to witness several wedding services each month. These beautiful moments are truly inspirational for us, and often bring up reflection about our friends, family and the choices we make in daily life. We feel so lucky that we get to hear the priests, pastors and rabbis reflect about life and current events as they relate to significant moments in history, as well as new brides and grooms pledging their love and devotion to each other as they recite their vows and begin the journey of spending the rest of their lives together.
We know that we are extremely fortunate to have so many opportunities for reflection during all of the services that our team orchestrates. We’d like to encourage you to savor the moments in your life that provide you the opportunity to slow down and just take everything in. Think about how beautiful new beginnings like weddings, childbirth and the collection of first time experiences that we all encounter throughout our lives are. Think about how cool it is that we have all this incredible technology in our lives — we can find out what’s happening anywhere in the world within seconds. We do live in an amazing time, which we work so hard to keep pace during, but none of us seem to slow down to enjoy the moments nearly enough.
Now that we have come to this introspective place in our lives, we force ourselves to slow down and savor the process constantly. For those of you planning a wedding in the near future, we can’t stress how rewarding you’ll find embracing the planning process, which takes place over several months for most couples. The bonding you and your future spouse will share over the planning of your wedding will be equal if not more meaningful than the blur that is your wedding day. Dr. Seuss once said, “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” The way we see Seuss’s prolific wisdom: If you’re up late dreaming about and/or planning your wedding, make a list of everything that you want to happen during your special day and bounce it off of us. Exceeding our brides and grooms’ expectations is what we do, and we want to know everything we can possibly do to make your wedding day extra special.
So whether you are inspired by our encouragement or by the person leading the business meeting or religious service that strikes the nerve which evokes your inspiration, we hope you find a way to slow down and take more of the good stuff in. We’re certain you’ll appreciate the little things, like the way the people around you look when they’re happy. And we’re sure the little things will inspire bigger things that allow you to enjoy the ride even more than you can imagine. Here’s to you savoring the journey. Enjoy every second.